Meditation to Bring Forgiveness
of Self and Others
© 2003 L. Diana Henderson
I daresay we’ve all had events in our lives that scarred us
in some way. We’ve experienced situations that we
found difficult to forgive—either to forgive ourselves or to
forgive others and often both.
Take a few moments
now to think back to such a situation in your own life. It
can be some small (or large) thing that happened within the last week
or month or year, or it can be something from childhood or
adolescence that has haunted you for many years. Sometimes
the big, deep-seated issues require completing this process more than once, but the technique
you’re going to perform can be used to resolve any
issue that needs forgiveness. Note: For this first time,
please choose an issue that involves only one other person in
addition to yourself. This will make it easier to do the
technique with everyone later.
This meditation truly is more of a vision. I like to call it experiencing a living memory.
In essence the Divine transports your psyche back to the moment/experience in full
Technicolor, surround sound, live action mode! But instead of
being just yourself, you will be both yourself and the other person. So here’s the forgiveness process....
If you have read What
Tom Sawyer Learned from Dying, you know what a life review
is. Basically, it’s similar to what people refer to
as your life “passing before your eyes,” but it
packs a much more powerful punch. We experience from the
perspective of anyone involved in each situation what transpired in our
lives. It's rather like a movie in which you play all the characters.
I received this initially as a divine vision myself after having a
memory trigger hurt and anger. What Spirit did was provide a brief
review of the life of the man who hurt me. I experienced his
its difficulties and rejections and his feelings of being less than
others—and I understood with complete clarity what led this
man to behave as he had. I felt absolute
compassion for him and deep understanding.
As this happened, I also experienced forgiveness of myself, because
that level of compassion and “knowing” extends to
everyone in such moments of unconditional love and
understanding. The Divine gave me the same perfect
appreciation and comprehension of the young woman I was in my early 20s and why I was
unable to defend against an unprovoked tirade.
I loved us both—both these beautiful souls in pain all those years earlier. And then the thing I most
needed—to speak up for myself—happened in the best
possible way.... In that moment, I reached out to this man, touched his
face with my palm and said, “I understand. I love
you completely and I forgive you completely. Someday
you’ll understand too. But for now just know that
everything is exactly as it is meant to be.” I
embraced him with love and embodied love for myself and all others in
that moment. Then I returned to the present, knowing
forgiveness as I’d never known it. I felt truly
blessed, and my belief is that wherever that man was at the time he
felt it too.
Afterward, I realized that one reason I’d encountered that
incident 25 years earlier was precisely so I could experience
forgiveness in this exact way. Since then I’ve felt
called by the Divine to share this technique with others. So you are
invited to try this method if you wish. The effect that comes from complete
forgiveness is that your entire being—physically, mentally,
and spiritually—can be cleared of the issues, energies and
related to the incident at hand.
First, take the time to consider and write down
what you need to resolve and forgive. Once you've prepared sufficiently, you may
Close your eyes and take three deep breaths in through the nose and out
through the mouth. On the exhale, allow yourself to release a
big sigh. Center yourself as much as possible.
Now, begin to recall again the situation you thought of a few minutes
ago, the one that needs resolution and forgiveness. Remember
as much about the other person involved as possible. Bring to
mind what each of you were wearing, your environment or setting and any
other details that will help evoke this scene as a living memory.
Recall what was said and done to produce feelings of hurt or anger
within you. If you can’t remember everything
exactly, that’s okay. Just recall as best you can.
Get in touch with your body now. Where does this anger or
hurt lie within your body? Ask the Divine to go to that place
and bring healing.
Call upon the Divine to guide this experience to your highest
good. You can address the Divine in whatever way resonates
with your beliefs: “Dear God, today, on the
_________________(date including year, e.g., 12th of May), at
__________________(location) in the _____________ (time: afternoon,
evening, etc.), I call upon you to guide and assist me in opening to
forgiveness and resolution within my heart, body, mind and
spirit of whatever situation I now hold within my memory. I
seek forgiveness for myself and all others as well as understanding and
compassion. I call upon You to assist me in reviewing this
experience in my Spirit Mind with your Love and Oneness as I open to the
certainty of the perfection of this moment. So I pray and give thanks
for these blessings of love...And so it is done in the name of God (use
whatever resonates with your beliefs). Amen.”
Now, take a few more deep, full breaths. As you continue to
breathe deeply, imagine a beautiful bubble of blue protective energy
and an emerald green healing light (or a rose pink bubble of
Divine Love) around your body. These spheres of light are
filled with Divine energy of pure love. With each
inhale, you breathe in that healing light and love.
Throughout this experience, you’re going to remain safe and
loved within these beautiful bubbles—no matter what
you may encounter from the past. At any time, you may breathe
deeply to assist in bringing in more love and releasing any discord.
For those who would like, adding the Violet Flame and/or expanding the
Three-Fold Flame within the heart will align you even more fully.
Now it’s time for you to go on a journey to the moment when
you experienced feelings of hurt and anger that remain
unresolved. Just let your conscious mind go. Your
heart, your body, together with your subconscious remember that
moment. Beyond that, your Spirit/Higher Self holds the memory from the highest perspective. Let yourself go
there now. See it; feel it, hear it; experience
it within the safety of your protective bubble.
Stand as an observer of those involved in this
experience—both the other person and yourself.
Imagine in this moment that you are one with the perfect Light and Love
of God, and that in this oneness with the Divine you see this moment
through Jesus’ eyes (or Buddha’s or any World Teacher/Ascended Master who
resonates with your beliefs), with His heart of perfect
compassion. In this moment call upon the Divine to allow you
to experience the oneness with the other person involved in this
situation. Know what that person knows; feel what he or she
feels; experience that person’s life as it led to this
moment. Allow it to play out in whatever way is most
appropriate to bring understanding.
In silence allow this to unfold. Take as long as you need.
Look at yourself in that moment. Feel, see, sense and
experience your own life review as the truth of who you were in that
moment and why you chose that experience are revealed to you by your Higher Self.
Again, take your time.
Now unite in love and oneness with the Divine as you heal that moment
in whatever way is necessary. Within your heart and mind, if you need
to say something to the other person or to embrace
them—whatever you feel led to do to acknowledge the
perfection of this moment—allow that to happen on a
Love this moment of understanding and compassion. Inasmuch as
you’re willing to clear this experience from your energy
field, your body and your consciousness, clear it now through love,
forgiveness and acceptance. Embrace its life
lesson. Embrace the oneness of yourself and the other person
and all existence. Embrace the Divine. Know that
you were and will ever be exactly as you were meant to be in every
moment of your life.
Now take another deep cleansing breath and bring your awareness back to
the present time. With your intent and imagination, as the
blue protective bubble continues to surround you, draw the emerald
green (or rose pink) bubble filled with God’s love
into your heart center to engulf your heart in love.
Give thanks for this
blessing of forgiveness and acknowledge that this, as all experiences,
are the lessons of a spiritual being living in human form.
Bless the moment of pain and the moment of forgiveness and cherish both
as teachers. Now take one more cleansing breath and come back
into wakefulness. Then, whenever you’re ready you
may open your eyes.
I believe that in using this technique or others that might be similar,
we can move beyond forgiveness into acceptance of our lives and the
lives of others and clear away old wounds as well as new ones
that come into our lives. May we reach a level of
understanding that will enable us to realize that each experience is a
blessing that leads us closer to the Divine.
© copyright 2003 L. Diana Henderson (may NOT be reprinted